Calling My Son Little Bear

  

*Steve’s mother would try to force me to call Max ‘Little Bear’ as ‘Bear’ is his father’s childhood nickname.

Against my wishes – especially because of what her son had put me through, she would still continue to push the matter. The twisted woman would even post pictures of Steve as a child on Facebook and tag me in after I had left him, although she was aware that he had abused me in all ways possible and left my son and I homeless and penniless.

I mean look at the card she sent to my son in December. No wonder the family is so fucked up. No matter how much I asked her to stop, she wouldn’t.

Well, Steve has an illegitimate son on the way… they can call him Little Bear!

I win, as Max will not recognise this name at all! So Steve’s mother can shove the name up her ass, shit it out, and shove it up her ass again. The last time I checked, my son’s name is Maximus Octavian Xxxxxxxxxx. 😀

It’s Been Going On For A Long Time

The whole family has serious issues – particularly mentally. This goes without saying.

*Steve’s biological mother was all over me like a rash, especially at the beginning of our relationship. I remember he and I argued something fierce because his mother was saying ill things about him to me, such as he has anger issues due to the way his daughter’s mother *Dawn treated him. Also, Steve did not want me to be friends with his mother because he hated her, and didn’t want me to be like her.

This message from *Anna proves that whatever crap was and is going on, has/had been way before I even came on the scene. (“Bear” is his nickname from childhood):

Anna, 06/01/2011, 20:15 – Hey dear, Bear called me…hope you don’t mind, he said you’re upset because of all this with Mom…which I totally understand. I will tell you the truth, the only thing she said about you was that she thinks you hate her now. And I’m so sorry that you’re being caught in the middle of all of this. It’s been going on for a long time, but it’s really escalating with Bear right now. I have only just recently patched things up with Mom, and trust me, we have all tried telling her she’s messed up, for years! My Dad tried so many times, and she was just in denial. Sometimes I think that big things have to happen to cause people to stop, look around, and really listen. But *Amber and I did write something up that Amber read to Mom, telling her she has got to stop with the crazy, and get some professional help. Anyway, I hope that all of this can be put aside, I don’t want Mom’s craziness to affect your relationship with my brother, me or Amber. Or even Dad… love ya Anna

Funny how it’s always someone else’s fault – namely Steve’s ex’s, as they now use me as a scapegoat and act like a united front…

Sleep On The Love Seat

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So… this is the sadistic family my poor son has been born into. Thank God I made the decision to cut them off.

Below is part of a conversation I had with *Anna, *Steve’s eldest sister. You can see from the date, I only found this out, this year.

Anna, 27/01/2014 02:22 – When I was about 9 years old, mom and dad had a love seat in their room, and they had been fighting and dad went to work, mom begged me to sleep on the love seat, so I did and when we were in the room I asked her why and she said that if I were there she knew that dad wouldn’t come in and rape her after work. I was terrified all night. And it’s so stupid bc dad would NEVER do that. I told him about that a few months ago, I had kind of forgotten about it honestly, and he was devastated, I mean crying at the thought that his daughter was afraid and thought he would do that. He was so hurt he said he wants nothing to do with her from here on out. There were many more times where she lied about him, to us and to others, implying that he was capable of horrible things. It was and is truly disturbing to me that she did that.

Me, 27/01/2014 02:29 – OH MY GOSH! What on earth would possess her to say something like that? I didn’t get that impression from your dad at all. I can only imagine how your dad feels hearing that. It’s something no one should lie about. Especially as I experienced it, I loathe shit like that. It’s heartbreaking. Because of shit like that it’s hard for real victims to get someone to believe them.

Me, 27/01/2014 02:30 – It also ruins the accused life, soul – everything when untrue. Wtf man? Wow. I didn’t realise she was that bad. I’m treading carefully with her.

Anna, 27/01/2014 02:34 – Yeah she even almost got him fired over a spam email! Back when the internet was really new and everyone was starting to use email, she checked his and there was spam for gay porn and she accused him of being a homo pedophile while he was working with troubled boys!!! Thank GOD they didn’t believe her

And I mean they ALL need a psychiatrist. Need I say more?

Wire Hanger

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According to *Steve, his mother had an abortion (from a previous relationship), something which his father would not let her forget. Whenever they would argue, the mother would lock herself in a room to get away from the father, who would then rant and shout, asking if he should he get her a “wire hanger”. He would then get one, and rattle it under the door, taunting her.

If this isn’t sick and twisted, then what is?

I am absolutely mortified by what I know about this family, yet they act as if they are a united front and act like their shit don’t stink.

They also have the cheek to think it is OK for Max to be in their lives one minute; then not the next. Truth is, I tried to make them a part of my son’s life, but to be honest, he doesn’t need them. He never has, and never will. If they really wanted to be a part of his life they would have made the effort, rather than leaving me to it – after it was their own son/brother who banned them from seeing him.

Max does not need to grow up in a hypocritical environment, nor does he need to learn their disturbing behaviours.

My son has my family. My friends.

My son has me.