Gap-Toothed Beast

This particular conversation started when *Anna sent me a message in the early hours of the morning (you can see the time). Ever wondered who started calling *Britney a gap-toothed beast? Here’s the answer!

*Anna, 04/06/2013 02:56 – They went to six flags apparently… my God she’s nasty

Me, 04/06/2013 02:59 – What’s six flags? Right? I don’t know how he’s gone from me to that! Oh well, his loss.

Anna, 04/06/2013 02:59 – It’s an amusement park and yeah she is horrendous

Me, 04/06/2013 03:04 – She must have paid because he has no money! I know from the bank accounts. He got with her to spite me. That’s backfired big time. She’s with him for what she can get because I know he’s feed her the story of how he has money. The way he was spending too, tells me so. Is your mum still in touch with him? Or did she unfriend him? I can’t begin to describe what she looks like. I just feel ill looking at her.

Anna, 04/06/2013 03:06 – Yeah I’m so sorry I can’t even imagine seeing my husband with another woman, especially a bald gap-toothed beast. The fact that he’s still married and she’s with him shows Me what trash she is! Mom unfriended and blocked him on Sunday I believe

Me, 04/06/2013 03:09 – I told him that she looks really bad in this for many reasons – no matter what he’s told her. She moved into the room WITH mine and Max’s stuff in there. What kind of woman does that? Do you know she has a 2 year old daughter? Doesn’t live with her though. Between them, they have 3 children who’s lives they’re not in.

Me, 04/06/2013 03:10 – I could never live without Max in my life/with me.

Anna, 04/06/2013 03:11 – That is so pathetic. Talk about lazy! They deserve to fall on their faces. I couldn’t imagine not seeing my girls every day, it would kill me. They are spiraling downward together and they are going to crash and burn so hard

Those who stir the shit pot should lick the spoon indeed. And when karma comes round to bite them in the ass, they will! 😀

 

Sleep On The Love Seat

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So… this is the sadistic family my poor son has been born into. Thank God I made the decision to cut them off.

Below is part of a conversation I had with *Anna, *Steve’s eldest sister. You can see from the date, I only found this out, this year.

Anna, 27/01/2014 02:22 – When I was about 9 years old, mom and dad had a love seat in their room, and they had been fighting and dad went to work, mom begged me to sleep on the love seat, so I did and when we were in the room I asked her why and she said that if I were there she knew that dad wouldn’t come in and rape her after work. I was terrified all night. And it’s so stupid bc dad would NEVER do that. I told him about that a few months ago, I had kind of forgotten about it honestly, and he was devastated, I mean crying at the thought that his daughter was afraid and thought he would do that. He was so hurt he said he wants nothing to do with her from here on out. There were many more times where she lied about him, to us and to others, implying that he was capable of horrible things. It was and is truly disturbing to me that she did that.

Me, 27/01/2014 02:29 – OH MY GOSH! What on earth would possess her to say something like that? I didn’t get that impression from your dad at all. I can only imagine how your dad feels hearing that. It’s something no one should lie about. Especially as I experienced it, I loathe shit like that. It’s heartbreaking. Because of shit like that it’s hard for real victims to get someone to believe them.

Me, 27/01/2014 02:30 – It also ruins the accused life, soul – everything when untrue. Wtf man? Wow. I didn’t realise she was that bad. I’m treading carefully with her.

Anna, 27/01/2014 02:34 – Yeah she even almost got him fired over a spam email! Back when the internet was really new and everyone was starting to use email, she checked his and there was spam for gay porn and she accused him of being a homo pedophile while he was working with troubled boys!!! Thank GOD they didn’t believe her

And I mean they ALL need a psychiatrist. Need I say more?

I Should Have Kicked His Ass And His Mother’s As Well

*Steve’s father had asked me if I knew of his whereabouts. I told him what I knew, which was that he was in Marietta, Georgia. To be brutally honest, I couldn’t care less where he was at the time of this conversation, just like I couldn’t care less now.

His Father, 19:54, 12 Dec 2013: Well let’s see what we can find out. His ass will be in jail very soon if he doesn’t start supporting his children.

Me, 20:01, 12 Dec 2013: I know. Child Support told me.  The worst thing is I told him to pay what he could and if he was having a difficult month financially,  to let me know. That way he wouldn’t have to make a payment for until he’d sorted himself out. This was AFTER what he’d done to me. He said an amount he could afford.  I said OK. He never paid a dime, so unfortunately,  I had to take “the law” route.

Me, 20:01, 12 Dec 2013: I’ve tried to work with him, but he says I’m taking advantage of him even though he owes me $15,000.

Me, 20:02, 12 Dec 2013: I know I’ll never see that money. I’ve just given up with him.

Me, 20:03, 12 Dec 2013: What would you say to him if you did find him?

His Father, 20:05, 12 Dec 2013: That is something I need to study on. I view him as a sorry ass, deluded, immature, manipulative child, who does not, and never had an excuse to deal with his family the way he has. I would go as far as let him beat the hell out of me, just to prove to him how dasterdly he has behaved. But, only once.

Me, 20:09, 12 Dec 2013: Oh my…

Me, 20:11, 12 Dec 2013: I really wish I could have helped him. I loved him and was ready to stand by him through thick and thin. He just didn’t want to be helped. Hus treatment to me was so poor, I couldn’t begin to explain the pain he has caused and inflicted upon me.

Me, 20:11, 12 Dec 2013: *His treatment

His Father, 20:08, 12 Dec 2013: He was raised to do what is right, because it is right, and leave the consequences to God. That has not changed.

Me, 20:13, 12 Dec 2013: He didn’t like the way I made him send his daughter presents. I tried to get him to work things out with you guys. He told everyone on Facebook that I turned his mother against him – even though they didn’t and still don’t get on.

Me, 20:13, 12 Dec 2013: His current “fiancee” doesn’t encourage him to do what’s right, and he likes that.

His Father, 20:12, 12 Dec 2013: He was spoiled. I should have kicked his ass and his mothers as well. If anything I am guilty of being too, gentle with him. No mas!

Me, 20:17, 12 Dec 2013: He’s so spiteful to me after everything I’ve done for him – to include saving his army career as they wanted to chapter him for not meeting tape, being rude and lazy. I begged the First Sargent to let him work out his contract.

Me, 20:18, 12 Dec 2013: I’m the reason he was able to leave once his contract expired and not be kicked out.

Me, 20:20, 12 Dec 2013: I loved him so much,  I fought for him and got the army (so to speak) to back off and leave him alone. They even gave us Tricare to June 2nd 2013, even though he left the army December 4th 2012.

Me, 20:22, 12 Dec 2013: They had said he wouldn’t necessarily get it. But I explained to the first Sargent that I was pregnant and we’d be homeless sooner rather than later and couldn’t pay for medical care.

She took pity on me.

Me, 20:23, 12 Dec 2013: We become homeless anyway,  sleeping in the car in Walmart Parking Lot.

Me, 20:24, 12 Dec 2013: No one can say I didn’t try! I almost lost my sanity helping him, and returned to England half the woman I was and very broken.

Me, 20:25, 12 Dec 2013: With literally just the clothes on my back which included his hand-me-down clothes.

His Father, 20:22, 12 Dec 2013: Do you want justice or revenge?

Me, 20:26, 12 Dec 2013: I asked him to send my Psychology degree certificate to my PO Box along with my graduation book. He said his fiancee threw them away. How spiteful can someone be?

Me, 20:26, 12 Dec 2013: Now I have to pay for another one and I can’t afford it!

Me, 20:27, 12 Dec 2013: I’ve been asked this question before…

His Father, 20:23, 12 Dec 2013: And?

Me, 20:28, 12 Dec 2013: God says I have to forgive him. Although I’m trying my best,  I have no choice but to leave it in God’s hands. Revenge would make me as bad as he. I cannot seek revenge.

His Father, 20:31, 12 Dec 2013: Well said. However, revenge is best saught through living well. Believe me, I grew up on the hard streets of New York with poor excuses for parents, survived combat and graduated magna cum laude, in spite of my parents hurtful treatment. That felt so good. Put him out of your mind, there is no justice. Just Max, who has family who love him, without condition. Move on for his and your sake, promise you we will come along for the ride:-)

Max “has family who loves him without condition“, eh? That’s why I made all the effort for them to be in my son’s life. Not once during nor after my pregnancy did they try. That’s why when they found out Steve and *Britney are having a boy, they decided they didn’t need Max in their lives after all, as he won’t be the only blood grandson any more.

Oh well. Their loss. But then again, this family are very good at not dealing with their responsibilities, lying and being deceitful.

Real Or Fake Message?

After talking to CJC’s father on (via phone) on Monday, June 9th this year, he had required my mobile/cell number. The next day, Tuesday June 10th, he contacted me and asked for the address of where I was staying. I don’t have my own transport, so he and Step Mother would have to come to me for them to be able to meet my son Max for the first time.

They had apparently not seen nor heard from Steve in three years. It wasn’t until I had heard this, that I gave my location details.

Out of the blue, I received the following private message from his eldest sister MT via her father’s Facebook account:

His Father, 10/06/2014 20:27 – Persia, It’s MT…Dad wanted me to let you know that Bear contacted him on here, and has not changed. He was saying that all the horrible things he said to us 2 years ago were “mostly true” and not apologetic. It seems to us that he is just trying to recruit us all back for team CJC and we are all tired of it. We all want to be clear that we aren’t taking anyone’s side, all the bad stuff that happened went on when we had been cut off from you guys. We are here now, to be a family and protect each other and be there for Max. Dad wants to be honest with you and let you know that we heard from Bear and send you a copy of our response. This has been so hard on all of us and we just can’t take the drama any more and we are hoping to be able to move forward and know Max with no agenda on our part. Here is a copy of the response we all wrote together to send him

(Please note that “Bear” is CJC’s childhood nickname).

 

 

Is this a coincidence or what? And it sure as shit is a change of tune from MT being my main informant, cussing both CJC and FE. Also, it changed from three years via phone since they’d heard from him, to two years in this message.

So this is the message they had “written together” relating to a previous post “Rude Message“, copied, pasted and sent to me on June 10th…

Today His Father 1:23pm His Father

Son,

First of all let me say this: you were not the reason I was in the hospital. I chose to go in of my own accord. This was for the good of my grandbabies, who are and will always be, the center of my life. Their well-being is paramount to me and I knew that if I took the right steps I could be in a better position to care for them. So thank you for your obvious concern for my health but rest-assured, your Step Mother and your sisters were here for me throughout and I am better than ever.

Second, I was saddened to see that even now you cannot go without blaming others for your actions. I don’t mean this is in a cruel way, but as your father I am going to be as blunt and honest with you as you chose to be with me. Persia did not force you to cut your family off. You chose to do that. You pitted this family against one another and when that no longer gave you the thrill you desired, you chose to cut all ties. That was you, Son. You can’t blame anyone else for your actions anymore. It’s weakness to do so and I won’t waste my time listening to it.

Third, you will no longer use other family members in a bid for my affection or sympathies. Your mother and the relationship I had with her is none of your business. Using her as a scapegoat every time you need someone to hold hands and commiserate with is not going to work. If you cannot respect the women in your life then do not mention them at all. A real man would never throw his mother under the bus in a desperate attempt at making himself feel vindicated. And may I just add that a few years ago it was actually *Dawn who you compared to your mother in defense of Persia and now you are comparing Persia to your mother. Perhaps Son, you have a messed up view of women and should seek counseling for it.

Fourth, you sent me this last message and said “…that doesn’t mean what I wrote wasn’t for the most part true…” and that is where you have lost a chance at moving me to accepting my son back with open arms. The things you said were not true. Period. This family has loved you deeply and sincerely for your entire life. That doesn’t mean that we will kowtow to you, or allow you to manipulate our feelings in accordance to whatever drama is currently taking place in your life. I did my best for you as a father and I have apologized for what shortcomings I have. Despite what you may believe, I spent the majority of your childhood working my fingers to the bone for you and your sisters. A true alcoholic can’t even lift their head off the kitchen table to save themselves from drowning in their soup, let alone hold down the kind of jobs that I have worked. So take your lies and your excuses, pack them up with your cruelty and call them your family if you must. Until you can apologize to everyone in this family and mean what you say, save your breath.

You will always be loved, Son. You are our Bear and every single person in this family has shed tears at the loss of the sweet and gentle boy we remember. If you truly want a reconciliation then it’s up to you. As the Patriarch of this family I will speak up as the representative of your Step Mother, Anna, *Amber, their husbands, and your Mother, as well as my grandchildren. You need to take a look at your loyalties and the hurt you have caused to the people who have loved and still love you unconditionally. However, as a family we will not be treated with the disrespect and cruelty you have shown to each of us and as a father I take no sides. We will not be dragged in to any further drama between you and Persia or even Dawn. Your Step Mother and I will continue being grandparents to your children in whatever capacity we are able. The pride we felt for your honorable service to this country should have been obvious to you with the letters, care packages, the trip to Montana with you, the co-signing of your vehicle (which by the way was orchestrated and accomplished only through the love of your Step Mother who’s face you spat in) and all the other ways we tried to support you and show you our affection. Until you can treat your own children and care for them as is your responsibility as a man, I cannot go further in a relationship with you. That is not to say that you cannot try contacting the other members of the family, but understand that this letter is from your family. If the day comes when you truly wish for a relationship with us, we will be here. Same as we always are and always have been. Drama-free, honest, loyal, and filled with thanks-giving. You are in our prayers and we will always love you.

His Father, 10/06/2014 20:28, (sent to me from Anna via his father’s account) – We want to be honest with you, so you know that we have no ulterior motive to being in touch with you, and Dad has no ulterior motive in meeting up with you. None of us mentioned that you are in town to him.

Real or fake message? I ask because shortly after this, one by one his family befriended CJC, as well as his pregnant girlfriend FE who they all said they wanted nothing to do with. Not to mention, he certainly is not treating “his own children and care for them” otherwise he wouldn’t have had his driver’s licence suspended since December 4th last year, nor would he be in arrears with payments. (He currently owes $4,779.61 for his son alone plus this months payment in addition).

I’d like to point out, there was nothing honourable about his service. Well, maybe in the beginning (I cannot say as I was not around), but sure as hell not at the end. One can read all about me saving him from being kicked out of the army.

So his father’s grandbabies are they centre of his life? Funny that, because I don’t get that impression at all. He may make more of an effort with the one on the way, by the son he must really be proud of, who has three children by three different women, who knows? Miracles are known to happen.

To add to this, MT’s change of tune and her saying in a nutshell, that we weren’t allowed to talk about the bad things CJC has put me though, and how we must put it in the past and move on, did not sit right with me. So the next morning, Wednesday June 11th, I asked when did her father receive this message from CJC. It took her a full eight hours to get back to me saying that it was sent in April this year, but her father didn’t see it until Monday June 9th.

MT had forgotten what she had said to me the day before about when the message was seen. She had actually told me the message was seen the same day they had informed me that CJC had been in touch which was Tuesday June 10th. Now she was saying it was the day before I had given his father my address.

I guess it was fake. Just like them.

My Father Has Another Child, But Walked Away

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According to *Steve, his father has another child out there – in addition to that of he and his two sisters. Having rested a hand on one of Steve’s shoulders, he coldly said:

“Son, sometimes you just have to walk away.”

Never made an effort to be in that child’s life. Never paid Child Support either.

And now, he is encouraging Steve to do the same by condoning his behaviour, as is the rest of his family.

If what was said is true, then I guess all I can say is… “Like father, like son”.

His father must be well proud.