EVERYTHING is YOUR Fault – There are NO exceptions to the rules – it is always YOUR fault!

“Once the Narcissist plants the diversion seed in your mind you tender it, fertilize it, and allow it to grow. They purposely want to isolate you with their distortions to disable you. Without resolution or their presence, you are only in a debate with yourself.” ~ After Narcissistic Abuse

After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @http://www.amazon.com

There are many ways that a Narcissist will confound or confuse your thought processes, isolate you, and hold you prisoner without that Narcissist even being in your presence. The Narcissist creates negative messages that trap us in our own heads. Be it raging, accusing, silencing, and distancing themselves from you for days, or whatever chaos they decide to throw your way. All of these methods are hideous forms of abuse to debilitate you/us and make us conform to their rules. They bait us with an argument or accusations, this escalates usually with the Narcissist taking it to a higher level of dysfunction, we are left dumbfounded with their hit and run message, and then they go into the punishment mode by running off or silencing us – we are left in shock or…

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Easter Hacks: aka Cheats Hot Cross Buns!

A unique way to make Hot Cross Buns – Perfect for Easter.

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Easter Hacks: aka Cheats Hot Cross Buns!

OH MY GOSH!!! Yes.. I need to shout! 😛 Last year I created my own free from hot cross bunswhich were amazing and if you have the time I’d highly recommend them BUT… they do take a long time AND wouldn’t you rather be doing something else like eating making chocolateor spending time with family and friends? Now you can! 😀 Oh my! I still can’t believe I didn’t think of this before!

You might have noticed (especially if you follow me on instagram) that I love pancakes (stay with me here), well, what I’ve done is combined an American style pancakewith a hot cross bun and the result is amazing! You can now have free-from hot cross buns without spending hours in the kitchen! You could even whip them up for breakfast! Or make them today and refrigerate…

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What is really behind that mask – the one that charmed us, or the one that we fell for OR fell in love with?

After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @http://www.amazon.com/

A little more education with some of the MANY “proto-types” or descriptions of various avenues the Narcissist uses to control and gain power over us and essentially abuse us:

1. THE PATHOLOGICAL LIAR is skillfully deceptive and very convincing. Avoids accountability by diverting topics, dodging questions, and making up new lies, they bluff or threaten us when questioned. Their memory is self-serving as they deny past statements and even re-write history. Constant chaos and diverting from reality is their chosen environment.

 

2. THE CONTRACT BREAKER agrees to anything then turns around and does the direct opposite. Marriage, legal, custody agreements, normal social/personal protocol is meaningless. This con artist will accuse you of being the contract breaker always dodging personal accountability for ANYTHING. Enjoys orchestrating legal action, threatening to call the police ALWAYS…

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Narcissists are just seamless with their lies, their fake charm, their seduction, their manipulation, and every other tool from their arsenal – it is like they have an instruction manual on how to emotionally and psychologically win over and destroy their victims – or abuse people and life.

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After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @ https://www.amazon.com

 

Narcissists DO find their ideal victims, and usually they are emotionally giving, very caring, kind, loving and selfless – basically good people like YOU and I. Generally, people that are centered in life and good natured, AND also loaded with positive empathy, emotionally generous, and unconditional as well. People that will bend their boundaries just enough to accommodate the bigger picture, and that is keeping life in a positive direction, working through things, turning the other cheek, etc. There is nothing wrong with that nor should any person be judged or looked down upon as a weak person for these qualities or better yet taken advantage of, bullied and abused for who or what they are. What I am only describing is a good and INTELLIGENT person that strives to keep…

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With a Narcissist every single word or action is designed to serve a purpose or a need – you must never forget this and be conned or tricked by them ever again!

“They will jump from one relationship to the next and so on and so forth replaying the same game for their whole life. They will keep running without a care of the destruction they leave behind – it is always OUR FAULT. We are all objects they use to create their false ego/image.” ~ After Narcissistic Abuse

After Narcissistic Abuse

 

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @ https://www.amazon.com

 

Lies and distortions of the truth are the ‘NORM’ for the Narcissist and the basis of their whole facade. So what are they in reality – whatever they want/need to be – but the façade is to cover up a very insecure and empty person that will not deal with the reality of their disordered life – not even the destruction they have caused to the people that have loved them. We are the objects they use to achieve their appearance and supply all of their needs. Nothing can penetrate their façade because their life is ONE HUGE DENIAL of the truth. They are not fully functioning humans and they need us to function and walk through life because their life is chapter after chapter of broken relationships and people…

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