Steve And Britney

(Please note, he did not look like this when I met him!).

I’ve known for quite some time, plus had an inkling months ago, but I hear congratulations are in order to the couple – they are expecting! Maybe *Steve and *Britney will be responsible for this child, as they already have three between them they don’t support, live with or know; she has a three year old daughter (the one she was pregnant with when she was caught shoplifting), and he has a daughter who is almost eight, but has only seen three times in her life, not to mention my son, one year old Max.

(State of Georgia Child Support Portal shows as of July 27th, he is in arrears with our son to the tune of $4,015.52. As of August 1st, the amount will increase Bear in mind, the Support Order only started September 1st 2013, and he was in arrears by the end of the month).

After many promises of help for our son, he decided to shun his responsibility for a life of leisure. It was I who, last year January (2013) wrote to Montana Child Support, whilst I was still living with him, to tell them of his whereabouts. Until he left the Army on December 4th 2012, due to not being able to re-enlist as he was going to be chaptered/kicked out, I had known him to be paying Child Support to his daughter.

He is also in arrears with Child Support with his daughter.

His driver’s licence is still suspended because of the arrears, since December 4th 2013.

Maybe this time they will be responsible parents and actually raise this (unborn) child. But it is going to be very interesting to see how on earth they are going to be able to explain to their other three children (in total, even though he’s twenty-six and she’s twenty-two, they have a fourth one one on the way) that they did not care to be in their lives. I guess they’ll blame the Custodial Parents for that. Blame shifting is the key for narcissists/psychopaths/sociopaths. But I have all the messages from *Steve ill treating me and saying he will not support our son. And I am going to show them to Max when he is of age to understand them.

Just like I am going to show Max the messages from each and every single one on Steve’s family members who have shunned him in favour for the new child – to include his father, step-mother, biological mother, and both his sisters – as well actual messages from them about Steve, how they slagged off Britney, etc.

Oh, and yes, he is still legally married to me.

Meeting With The Grandparents Today

I am pleased, relieved and feeling great after allowing *Steve’s father and step-mother to meet their only grandson. It went really well. Max went to them with open arms the moment he saw them. He’s a friendly child to say the least, but it made it all the less awkward because of his loving greeting.

I am over the moon.

It feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Panic over.

Now Max will have both lots of Grandparents in his life and I couldn’t be happier.

My child is so lucky. Born in the US, he is now a dual citizen as he has a British passport too. He will be raised as such. He’s going to be so diverse – although raised in the UK, my mother and step-father were born in Jamaica. His father’s father is American (mixed with Black, Spanish, Irish and a few more I believe!); whilst his step-mother is a Canadian Romanian Jew. One of his Godfather’s is my uncle; the other is a very dear, gay friend of mine who is mixed. One of his Godmothers is White American (a Sergeant in the US Army); whilst the other is Vietnamese. My wonderful, beautiful friend who drives me everywhere whilst I’m in the US, is originally from Bangladesh. I’ve known her for almost nineteen years. We studied and graduated together in the UK. She speaks to Max in her own language. (I’ve warned her, no swear words please!). He will call her “aunt”.

Max has no idea what great things he has created already. He is an incredible little boy, who has brought so much happiness to my life (even with him going through a major brat phase).

The sun is shining.

Things are looking up.

God is good.