Domestic Abuse Is About Perpetrators Using Their Control, Not Losing Control

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I came across this link/article on Twitter yesterday titled “It’s Time The Law Changes – Domestic Abuse Is About Perpetrators Using Their Control, Not Losing Control” written by Laura Richards ~ Chief Executive of Paladin, author of DASH Risk Model and the book Policing Domestic Violence.

Behaviours included:

isolation from friends, family and colleaguesAbusing Me Whilst Pregnant, He Started To Call Me Ugly” / “He Wanted Me To Work Whilst He Stayed At Home“);
excessive jealously; (*Steve hated it when I even so as said “Hello” to a random person on the street – especially if the person was a guy. He’d say “Why are you talking to him?”. I wasn’t allowed to talk to anyone unless he said so.)
removal of all communications devices (“Verbal Abuse” third bullet point down);
food and use of the toilet being withheld (“Heavily Pregnant, Hungry And Homeless” / “Finding Ourselves In Up State New York” ;
control of what the victim would wear (“It Was His Money, Not Mine” sixth bullet point down);
how they would style their hair and where they could work, if they were allowed to at all (“And So The Lies Continue“) / When *Steve did start complaining and saying that I had to work after he had previously told me not to, he told me I was not allowed to get part time work in Kroger (supermarket), I had to work in Waffle House;
stalking by means of tracking and following (“Well, Hello Mr. Crazy” / “Steve Stalking Me On Twitter“);
financial control including restricting the victim from using any money or having any control over bills (“It Was His Money, Not Mine“);
deliberate sleep deprivation (“Our Disastrous Trip To New York Whilst Heavily Pregnant” / “Our Son Is Born” sixth paragraph down) ;
threats of sexual abuse or rape (“Married Or Not, No Means No“);
threats to harm or kill children and/or pets (“Kittens – Rupert, Stewart And Jacob” / “My Precious Girls Oxanna And Pheonix“);
threats of physical harm such as broken bones or strangulation (“Physical Abuse ~ Part One” / “Today Is My Birthday“).

All information in brackets are some of my own personal experiences with my (ex) husband *Steve.

Click here to read it.

Financial Abuse Takes Heavy Toll On Domestic Violence Survivors

Seeing this article reminded me of the financial devastation my (ex) husband inflicted upon me. And then, in addition, expected me to pay for a lawyer for him to seek full custody over his daughter, not to mention, in the meantime, for me to pay Child Support for his daughter on his behalf.

Financial Abuse Takes Heavy Toll On Domestic Violence Survivors