When *Steve’s family suddenly ‘switched’ on me a few months ago, in favour of their son/brother’s actions of having another child (with a third ‘woman’) on the way, even though his son with me is a year old, and he doesn’t support either of the children he already has, his step mother, no doubt with the influence of his father wrote this to me:
Step Mother, 26/06/2014 21:15 – I really don’t want to rehash all of that except for the point that you believed what your internet love of your life who was merely a child 11 years your junior had to say over those who you met a few times and did nothing but welcome you with open arms into their homes. I’m sorry but you might want to rethink your line of work because you are really not very good at reading people. Sure were we wary of you we didn’t know you. We didn’t know your motives, but we welcomed you and was always respectful until you were not. If having a relationship with Max means that we have to constantly be looking over our shoulder than I’m sorry to say that we are not interested. If you don’t trust us than I’m sorry for that and that is your issue. Steve is our son and brother so at some point if he was ready then a relationship was going to be tried to be rebuilt. We were trying to build a relationship with you even after all that YOU did and said. Do not put that blame on Steve as the last time I checked you were a grown educated and worldly woman.
You are not a victim but just as much a participant in your life and decisions. I hope you never have to go through that with your son.
As you can see. I am being used as a scapegoat. I have never said that Steve was the “love of my life”, well because quite frankly, he wasn’t, although I did love him. In fact, his step mother now looks very silly for saying that he was, because there is no evidence to suggest that I even thought that. However, it has been memorialised by Steve, that I was the love of his life, as well his current girlfriend, and she won’t be the last.
If he was “merely a child”, then how come this child already had a child? Says a lot for their parenting skills, doesn’t it? Maybe if he was raised properly, he wouldn’t need to chase and date older women, thinking it normal to try to get them to support him. If he is “merely a child”, then how come he is having a third child with a third ‘woman’ when he doesn’t support his first two?
According to *Steve his father is approximately fifteen years older than his step mother. I estimate it’s closer to eight years. How come then, the age gap between them his OK? Pot calling the kettle black comes to mind.
I have no idea what she means about “my line of work”, nor did she explain herself. I think she was just just trying to pull something out of her ass, and I must say, she was successful! It didn’t make any sense!
She goes on to say they were always respectful until I was not. So, I guess she believes with all the drama I was dragged into, along with being called a “ni**er” I should have continued to be respectful by not cutting them off? I think she needs to stop and have a long, hard think about what she said/wrote.
As for them looking over their shoulders, again, I have no idea what she’s talking about, because it was not I who was doing anything behind their backs; it was indeed, the other way around. I believe that once they found out Steve’s girlfriend is having a boy, they just became uninterested in my son Max, because they are all used to using children as pawns, or just walking away from them as they simply don’t care, but act like they do.
The Step Mother also points out, from what I understand from this message, that everything that went wrong was my fault. No surprises there. I suggest she takes a look at his rude message which had nothing to do with me. I think she should take a look at her own relationship with his father, who is always stating that he is going to kill her/have her killed – which might I add, I do not find funny.
She then pulls off with another bullshit statement – that I’m a educated and worldly woman. What has that got to do with anything? She does make me laugh. I understand she was struggling to insult me so had to say something. She’s a first class idiot. Just like the rest of them. Here’s my response:
Me, 26/06/2014 21:44 – You’re entitled to your opinion, but it is very rare for a person to hear that something has been said about them – especially something as degrading as the “n” word, and turn around and actually ask that person if they actually said it.
Yes, I am a grown adult, but HE chased me for ages, not the other way round. I am not the first person who has dated someone younger than me, nor will I be last. It all depends on the individual. He came across as a man, but you are right, he was merely a child. A man would never treat a woman the way he has treated me, not would he not support his own children.
“Internet Love Of My Life” – I think you will find I was supposedly the love of his life, as he made sure he plastered that everywhere. As for internet dating, it’s becoming more and more popular these days, so it’s not a big deal. It’s just about how people portray themselves and about them being honest. I’m not ruling it out. I’d do it again, as many people do. It doesn’t mean because you meet someone on the street, in a bar, etc, they will be any better.
My line of work? You’ll need to explain that one, because my line of work is raising my son on my own.
And what were my motives? The last time I checked, I didn’t have any. I’ve said this before.
If you feel you have to constantly look over your shoulder to be a part of Max’s life, then I’m sorry, but I cannot help you. As I said, if you want to know anything about him, you only have to ask.
I tried to build a relationship with you ALL after hearing all the bad things you all said about me. So either you all did say the things he said you did about me, or he’s lying… so, I believe I can throw blame in his direction if what he said was in fact, untrue.
You mentioned I was rude earlier. If you really want to know what rude is, please take a look at the message(s) that your own son sent you when his Step Mother told him he had to pay for the car, not to mention the message he sent you you all, when I was still in the UK and knew nothing about. The one where he says *Anna owed him money, plus more.
I am not a victim? So I asked him to rape me during my pregnancy? I asked to try to strangle me to death? I asked him to put a pillow over my face, plus more? Those were my decisions? I guess so, according to you.
My son will turn out very different to that of his father, because he won’t be around him for Max to see domestic violence and to continue the cycle.
I wish you all the best. I don’t have any ill-will against any of you. Nor any ill motives. In fact, once again, I have no motives against you at all, only for Max to know his family and have some sort of relationship your son didn’t allow when I was with him.
I’m going to go now. As you know, I am raising Max by myself.
Also, as I said, you can contact me at any time about Max.
Take care of yourselves.
Lots of love, Max & I. xx
(“I Survived domestic Violence. I Spoke Up. I Chose To Live”).
Thank you Steve’s Step Mother for reminding me that I am not a victim. I was a victim. I am now a survivor. There is a difference indeed. You’re the victim, but choose to ignore that fact, when his father is mentally and emotionally abusing you, by threatening you with your life and acting as if it’s a joke, and when he is making you cry by saying you can’t fit into your en-suite bathroom, so it has to be re-modernised because you’re too fat. Not to mention that he settled with you because the woman he actually wanted to be with decided to be with another man. This is just to name a few.
Good luck to you.
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