That’s Why I Believe You

I had no idea he was talking behind my back, blaming me for our financial woes, nor did I know he was telling people that it was I who insisted on us getting married. Considering it was he who proposed to me, and he was the one who got the information about proxy marriages. I’d never heard of one before! And it’s certainly not something that we do in the UK.

Me, 03:01, 6 May 2013 – I don’t know what is wrong with him. If he had made this much effort with us,  we would have been fine.

His Mother, 03:01, 6 May 2013 – yes you would. except for the lies and selfishness.

Me, 03:02, 6 May 2013 – So true. He lied about everything

Me, 03:02, 6 May 2013 – I wanted to leave him from last year and he wouldn’t let me

His Mother, 03:03, 6 May 2013 – including lying to me about you. grieve for the man you fell in love with so you can heal. don’t search for answers. that’s what I had to do.

Me, 03:04, 6 May 2013 – What did he say about me?

His Mother, 03:06, 6 May 2013 – he blamed the money problems on you, said you insisted on getting married, said you constantly put him down.

Me, 03:07, 6 May 2013 – Wow

His Mother, 03:07, 6 May 2013 – that was when he got out of the army and you were pregnant and he took off on you.

Me, 03:08, 6 May 2013 – I went to see him between Germany and the States 8 times and paid for it all to include flights, hotels and food.

Me, 03:09, 6 May 2013 – He racked up a nearly $3,000 debt on my credit card and left me to pay for it.

His Mother, 03:09, 6 May 2013 – when you told me he lied it was the final truth because everyone has been telling me that. that’s why I believe you.

Me, 03:11, 6 May 2013 – My divorce was finalised on April 1st 2011 and he insisted we get married straight away – against my better judgement,  so it happened on April 29th 2011 by proxy.

Me, 03:11, 6 May 2013 – I ended up paying for it.

Me, 03:12, 6 May 2013 – I told him i didn’t want to get married ever again. He really is a liar.

His Mother, 03:12, 6 May 2013 – I always swore I would never marry again unless I knew the man’s family. I knew my husband’s family for almost 30 years before I met him.

Me, 03:14, 6 May 2013 – I will call you tomorrow or something so we can actually talk about the things he’s done to me and so I can set the picture straight. I now know why no one likes him. Very horrible person. Shame i had to move out there to find out. Hard to see when you live in different countries.

Me, 03:16, 6 May 2013 – Please do not tell him we are on talking terms or what we have discussed.

His Mother, 03:16, 6 May 2013 – if it’s any consolation, , I made the same mistake with an online relationship after his father and I separated. I will keep this secret as long as you want.

 

Where his mother states “…that was when he got put of the army and you were pregnant and he took off on you“, was when he left me stranded in West Virginia, heavily pregnant, in winter, with no money or food. I had literally no battery power left on my phone either.  I had to sit outside in the cold, freezing to death, with no coat.

He eventually came back for me after three and a half hours.

Can’t say I’m surprised by his lies though. That’s all he ever does. Lie.

Chuck Norris

When I was pregnant with our son Max, *Steve used to make references to Chuck Norris all the time. For example, Max would rest against my organs leaving me in pain, and Steve would say it was because he was Chuck Norris! When we went for the scans, Max would be kicking wildly, and eventually, you could see his elbows and feet printed on my tummy. Yep, you guessed, the Chuck Norris references and jokes kept coming! I bet he’s doing the same thing now with the child he has on the way. Nothing new there then!

Steve also posted on his Facebook page “It’s a boy! We couldn’t be prouder!”, tagging me in. Yet, he has made no attempts to be in his son’s life. No doubt, he just wanted to feed his ego even more, acting like he was a proud father to be, so people could say what a great person he is. Narcissists will use family, even their own children to get their fix. By the time he had posted this in July 20th 2012, I already knew that he didn’t care about his children at all – to include his daughter.

I guess things may be different for a while with the new baby, but only because he of course, wants to try to prove me wrong.

I wish him luck with that, because no matter how long it takes, his true character will emerge. Nothing ever changes – except for the mask falling off – when it comes to a narcissist.

Steve And Britney

(Please note, he did not look like this when I met him!).

I’ve known for quite some time, plus had an inkling months ago, but I hear congratulations are in order to the couple – they are expecting! Maybe *Steve and *Britney will be responsible for this child, as they already have three between them they don’t support, live with or know; she has a three year old daughter (the one she was pregnant with when she was caught shoplifting), and he has a daughter who is almost eight, but has only seen three times in her life, not to mention my son, one year old Max.

(State of Georgia Child Support Portal shows as of July 27th, he is in arrears with our son to the tune of $4,015.52. As of August 1st, the amount will increase Bear in mind, the Support Order only started September 1st 2013, and he was in arrears by the end of the month).

After many promises of help for our son, he decided to shun his responsibility for a life of leisure. It was I who, last year January (2013) wrote to Montana Child Support, whilst I was still living with him, to tell them of his whereabouts. Until he left the Army on December 4th 2012, due to not being able to re-enlist as he was going to be chaptered/kicked out, I had known him to be paying Child Support to his daughter.

He is also in arrears with Child Support with his daughter.

His driver’s licence is still suspended because of the arrears, since December 4th 2013.

Maybe this time they will be responsible parents and actually raise this (unborn) child. But it is going to be very interesting to see how on earth they are going to be able to explain to their other three children (in total, even though he’s twenty-six and she’s twenty-two, they have a fourth one one on the way) that they did not care to be in their lives. I guess they’ll blame the Custodial Parents for that. Blame shifting is the key for narcissists/psychopaths/sociopaths. But I have all the messages from *Steve ill treating me and saying he will not support our son. And I am going to show them to Max when he is of age to understand them.

Just like I am going to show Max the messages from each and every single one on Steve’s family members who have shunned him in favour for the new child – to include his father, step-mother, biological mother, and both his sisters – as well actual messages from them about Steve, how they slagged off Britney, etc.

Oh, and yes, he is still legally married to me.

So Called Latino Cheater ~ Part Two

“So called Latino cheater4m

I do know the proper use of your and leave, but it so happens that you aggravated me to the point of me being in tears, and of course I know you do not care. I will not give in to this foolishness with that being said this will be my last post. I have no interest in giving you “Fame” so try to get good ratings out of this one. My question to you is: Did it feel good to bring up the fact that I am not able to have children? You obviously know how to spell but what you know not about is RESPECT for other people and what they go through. The fact that you seem so hurt about what Steve did to you and how this blog is suppost to be for women that have been abused but yet you find pleasure in hurting me emotionally. It’s ok Persia, after this message I will not allow you to disturb to the peace I have in my heart. I am not able to have children but I am an AMAZING women. I have learned from my pain and my mistakes and have moved on to a wonderful life with a man who loves me greatly. Hopefully you will be able to feel and experience that kind of love someday. I do not. Care if you decide to reply to this post or not since I will not visit your blog again. I did speak to Steve about this today since we have remain friends all of these years so yes Persia I know all about you but I will be the bigger person here and leave it at that. I came to the conclusion that you are in need of attention so I will not give you the satisfaction of wasting my time any longer. Don’t flatter yourself honey I replied to this because I owed it to myself not get a rise out of you. Hope that you and your 3 followers get a kick out of this one. (; Best regards!! From a BLISSFUL and HAPPY Latina who made better choices in her life than you.”

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Yes folks, there is a part two.

Once again, she shows her capability of being able to read.

Fame? What fame? Because I’ve decided to tell the truth of what has happened to me and what has been said to me?

“Did it feel good to bring up the fact that I am not able to have children?” – I’d like to know where at any I indicated that it felt good. The last time I checked, I was merely pointing out that *Steve had said a lot of bad things about you, and that he was happy you contacted him to gloat about the fact that I was pregnant and you were unable to have any children. How is this me being happy about your misfortune?

What I know not about is respect? No, you don’t know about respect, otherwise you would not be throwing around accusations as you are.

Don’t tell me what my blog is supposed to be about. It’s not supposed to be for women. It’s supposed to explain what I went through, and to let any man, woman or child know they do not have to suffer in silence. That’s why the sub-title is “Speaking Out About Domestic Abuse”.

I don’t see how what I have said has hurt you emotionally, because it was not I who said it in the first place – it was *Steve, your so-called friend who spread this information around. Perhaps you should have another chat with him…

I know full well is “OK”. I have never spoken ill of you, and you clearly are incapable of basic reading skills, and to think for yourself, which is why you haven’t stopped to think how I knew about you in the first place. The only person who disturbed the peace in your heart is the same one you are believing, and who created this mess in the first place.

You mean to say you are a wonderful “woman” not “women“.

There is no hopefully about feeling love. I feel it everyday from family, friends and my son. Thanks for the concern though.

You won’t visit my blog again, but I can see you have sent yet another message… hmm…

If you can still call Steve a friend, then that’s up to you. A friend would not have said all those things he did about you.

I didn’t communicate with you first, remember that, so you re only wasting your own time.

I’m not flattering myself – you are, because you think I pulled all the info I  know about you out of thin air. I do feel for you.

I don’t have three followers – those are just the people who have like the post so far. Many more have read it too. I have over four hundred followers, so please…

You know all about me from what Steve has said. I know all about you from what Steve has said. I know all about his family from what Steve has said. I know all about his friends from what Steve has said. Doesn’t mean they’re true, so you run along now and believe whatever you wish.

You made better choices than me in life? One of them being to believe the person who slagged you off? Off course he’s going to lie and send you the link to my blog. He knows you can’t think for yourself and need people on “Team Steve”, whereas I don’t need to recruit anyone. He is desperate to get as many people as possible on his side. Oh, and three of the best choices I’ve ever made in my life is 1) having my son, 2) leaving lying Steve when my son was twelve weeks old before he turned onto his own son (as he started to, shouting at a ten week old baby for having an upset stomach because the noise stopped him from being able to sleep) and 3) not believing the lies that you continue to believe.

Unlike you, I don’t need a man to make me complete, nor do I have to remain friends with someone who does not care about me – so much so, that he would spread information about me like he has done to you – because I am not desperate.

Take care of yourself now.

So Called Latino Cheater…

I awoke in the early hours of this morning to find this message pending for approval. Half asleep, it did make me wonder how some people can get angry and uptight about something which was not slagging them off in any way.

“The Early Gifts From Him

So Called Latino …Jul 2, 5:28 am

Who do you think you are??! If you don’t have your facts straight you shouldn’t be talking so openly about me. You have no idea who I am or what I went thru, therefore you should just stick to blogging about your personal experience and live me out of that equation.

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Now I’m not going to spend too much of my time writing about just how stupid this comment is, because it really isn’t worth it. But I will say this. “So Called Latino Cheater…” clearly did not read what I had written properly, if in fact at all. For if she did, this comment would never have come about. I clearly stated that it was what *Steve had told me. I also furthered the point by saying “As he says the story goes…”. By opening with these statements, anyone with even one brain cell would know that it was something he had more than likely made up. I never said they were facts. How else would I even know you existed if he hadn’t said something about you? Have you stopped to think about that?

Just like he told me that you had contacted him in the early half of 2012, and said it was perfect timing as he wanted to talk to you, so he could tell you I was pregnant “to spite you because he knows you cannot have children”. Of course I thought this was outrageous, and thought this was the lowest of the low and told him so. Again, how would I know about this had he not said something to me?

So, my dear child, not only do I know who I am, therefore, I do not have to think about it, but I do not wish to know anything about you. I never have, but I was with someone, who unfortunately felt the need to tell me about all sorts of bad things about others – to include you because he wanted others and me to feel pity for him. Also, I don’t have any idea what you went through, but again, I don’t really care to be honest.

What you should do is take a seat, and don’t tell me what to do. I have not used your name, even though I know it. I have not spoken openly about you, so don’t flatter yourself. If you’re pissed off, then I suggest you take up your issues with Steve. By trying to take it out on me, you are just participating in his foolishness, and encouraging his behaviour therefore, becoming an enabler.

Oh, one more thing… “thru” is spelt “through” (it always has been), and “live” I believe is meant to be “leave“.

Not sure how you came across it, but thank you for visiting my blog – my stats increased quite a bit! I do hope you stop by again.