Twenty Traits Of Malignant Narcissism ~ Twenty

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*THE PENITENT NARCISSIST says “I’ve behaved horribly, I’ll change, I love you, I’ll go for therapy.” Appears to ‘come clean’ admitting past abuse and asking forgiveness. Claims we are at fault and need to change too. The sincerity of his words and actions appear convincing. We learn his words are verbal hooks. He knows our vulnerabilities and what buttons to push. We question our judgement about his disorder. We can disregard “Fool me once…” We hope for change and minimize past abuse. With a successful re-targeting attempt, this N will enjoy his second reign of terror even more if we allow him back in our lives.

The Journey To Meet His Mother And Sister For The First Time

Emotional And Mental Abuse

Defense Strategy: Expect this. Self-impose a “No Contact” rule. Focus on the reality of his disorder. Journal past abusive behavior to remind yourself. Join our support group.

(*From the “Narcissism Book Of Quotes”)

4Jul2014

Twenty Traits Of Malignant Narcissism ~ Nineteen

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*THE CALLING-CARD NARCISSIST: forewarns his targets. Early in the relationship he may ‘slip up’ revealing his nature saying “You need to protect yourself around me” or “Watch out, you never know what I’m up to.” We laugh along with him and misinterpret his words. Years later, coping with the devastation left behind, his victims recall the chilling warning.

Abusing Me Whilst Pregnant, He Started To Call Me Ugly

Verbal Abuse

Defence Strategy: Know the red flags and be suspicious of the intentions of others.

(*From the “Narcissism Book Of Quotes”)

3Jul2014

Twenty Traits Of Malignant Narcissism ~ Eighteen

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*THE SAINTLY NARCISSIST: proclaims high moral standing. Accuses others of immorality. “Hang ’em high” he says about the murderer on the 6:00 news. This hypocrite lies, cheats, schemes, corrupts, abuses, deceives, controls, manipulates and torments while portraying himself of high morals.

Pretty much all listed in “Real Events“.

Defense Strategy: Learn the red flags of behaviour. Be suspicious of people claiming high morals. Can be spotted at a church near you.

(*From the “Narcissism Book Of Quotes”)

3Jul2014

Twenty Traits Of Malignant Narcissism ~ Seventeen

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THE EMOTIONAL VACUUM: is the cruellest blow of all. We learn his lack of empathy. He has deceived us by his cunning ability to mimic human emotions. We are left numbed by the realization. It is incomprehensible and painful. We now remember times we saw his cold vacant eyes and when he showed odd reactions. Those closest to him become objectified and expendable.

How We Met And The Military Ball

Paying For His Car And More Lies

Well, Hello Mr. Crazy

Defense Strategy: Face the reality. They can deceive trained professionals.

(*From the “Narcissism Book Of Quotes”)

2Jul2014

Twenty Traits Of Malignant Narcissism ~ Sixteen

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*THE IMAGE MAKER: will flaunt his ‘toys’, his children, his wife, his credentials and accomplishments. Admiration, attention, even glances from others, our envy or our fear are his objective. He is never satisfied. We see his arrogance and haughty strut as he demands center stage. He will alter his mask at will to appear pitiful, inept, solicitous, concerned, or haughty and superior. Appears the the perfect father, husband, friend – to those outside his home.

Portraying himself As A Loving Husband And Father

Our Trip To See His Daughter in Montana

Defense Strategy: Ignore his childlike behaviours. Know his payoff is getting attention, deceiving or abusing others. Provide him with ‘supply’ to avert problems.